Wednesday, October 22, 2014

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Monday, October 20, 2014

Episode 33 - Let’s Go to Legoland, and How to Play a Better Game of ‘Clue’

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Jacob’s question to me: What is something you like to do the least?

You’ll learn what it would take to get me to base jump or zip line when Jacob asks me what I like to do the least in life. Hey, we all have our limits!

My question to Jacob: What is something we do as a family that you definitely want to do with your family in the future?

Funny thing. The “something we do as a family” that Jacob identifies is actually something we haven’t done...yet. Looks like we will need to make a trip to Legoland in San Diego, California so Jacob can one day take his family to Legoland and tell them, “This is something I used to do with my family when I was a kid!” I’m cool with that.

Somehow, Jacob and I wind up digressing our conversation from Legoland to how he can improve in the game of “Clue.” Eh, that’s how it goes when we have no script and we go with what’s on our hearts.

Our question to you: What is something that you really don’t enjoy doing?

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SHOW NOTES
CORRECTION: Harry Potter & the Deathly Hallows did come out a year before Breaking Dawn Part 1. I was wrong. My son was right.

Strength Revisited, a free eBook download based on my TEDxCorpusChristi Talk about how we define strength in manhood. Thanks to Emiliano Diaz DeLeon and Joel Boggess (from ReLaunchShow.com) for your feedback on this eBook, and sharing it with those you know.

What the heck is Legoland, and where is it?! Well, we’re talking about the theme park in San Diego, California, and not any of the Discovery Centers.


Here’s a list of some of the board, card, and dice games we play during Family Game Night:
  • Clue
  • Tenzi
  • Life 
     Golf (Wikipedia link)

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Speaking at a Middle School Bible Club

July 2003, Homecoming.
A really cool thing came out of Emma doing a bunch of shout-outs to her teachers in Episode 26 of Family Time Q&A. One of those teachers, Ms. Kirkpatrick, invited me to share my testimony with the school’s bible club.

Over 35 middle school students plus five adults gathered before school started each with a glazed doughnut in hand to listen to my story

I gave an account of my experiences in Operation Iraqi Freedom through the sharing of a Prezi, plus a couple of demonstrations, and ended with a tear-soaked conclusion about how Olivia prayed for a deal with God. If He brought me home alive, then she would do anything she could to bring me to church and have a relationship with Him. 

Side note: the tears were mostly my own.



Ms. Garza, the faculty sponsor of the club, arranged for a closing activity where students wrote the name of someone they know who doesn’t yet have a relationship with Christ. Their task now is to pray for that person by name throughout the school year as well as all the other names that were written.

The opportunity to speak to Emma’s Bible Club was another humbling experience of how God is using my story to inspire others to make a difference in the world.

I believe we each have a story to tell that inspires people to make a difference in their own lives and in the lives of others.

What is your life-changing story that would inspire others? Feel free to share in the comments below, or send me an email.

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Monday, October 13, 2014

Dad, how long would you live in the zombie apocalypse, and why? The Walking Dead Season 5 Premiere Special Episode.



Recording day also happened to be the Season 5 Premiere for AMC’s “The Walking Dead.” Naturally, that made its way into the Family Time Q&A Podcast this week. While our kids do not watch the show like Olivia and I do, they seem to follow along by talking with us about that show.

Emma’s question to me: How do you think you’d be able to survive in the zombie apocalypse, and how would you survive?

What’s in my answer? Here’s a couple of clues, “zombie apocalypse contingency plan” and “ZAT Roster.” I think Emma was in a bit of disbelief by my response. Then again, it seems like she had a suggestion or two herself.

My question to Emma: We spent quite a bit of time this weekend binge watching the show “Once Upon a Time” on Netflix. What are some characteristics that you think we both share?

Our question to you: Would Ontario, Canada be a good city to hold out from the zombie apocalypse? Why, or why not? Answer in the comments below!

The Arm of Smileys! 


SHOW NOTES
Strength Revisited, a free eBook download based on my TEDxCorpusChristi Talk about how we define strength in manhood.



Buy The Walking Dead on DVD from Amazon (Affiliate link)

The Brick Bible is a great bathroom read for the guy who is new to understanding the Bible. (Affiliate link)
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Buy tickets for Corpus Christi Ballet’s Nutcracker or be a sponsor
You can buy tickets from us! Send me an email if you’re interested in either tickets for a show or to sponsor the program with your business, and I’ll pass it along to Olivia who has all the details and forms to get you squared away. Showtimes in December are as follows:

  • December 13, 2014, 7:30pm; Family Night (no orchestra) Price Map
  • December 14, 2014, 3:00pm; Family Night (no orchestra) Price Map
  • December 20, 2014, 7:30pm; with live Orchestra Price Map
  • December 21, 2014, 3:00pm; with live Orchestra Price Map

All shows are held at the American Bank Center, Selena Auditorium.

Monday, October 6, 2014

Episode 31 - How Has Leaving Out "Divorce as an Option" Impacted Our Marriage?

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It has been an exciting week for the Dugan Family! I started a new job, Fall baseball started for Jacob, the Nutcracker cast list was posted, and I spoke at a Bible Club for middle school students. We also share how we carve out alone time during the workweek to stay connected, and why divorce is not an option for us in our marriage.


Liv’s question to me: How did your first week at work go?


My question to Liv: Dr. Corey Allen from SimpleMarriage wrote a blog post called “Why You Should Never Say the ‘D-Word’ in Your Marriage” talking about treating divorce like it were a vulgar word. (Actually, that post was written by Sean.) How would you say that principle, of leaving divorce out as an option in our marriage, has impacted our own marriage?


Our question to you: Do you struggle to stay connected with your spouse or family on a daily basis? What do you wish you were able to do with your family that you aren’t able to do right now?


SHOW NOTES
Strength Revisited, a free eBook download based on my TEDxCorpusChristi Talk about how we define strength in manhood.


Buy tickets for Corpus Christi Ballet’s Nutcracker or be a sponsor
You can buy tickets from us! Send me an email if you’re interested in either tickets for a show or to sponsor the program with your business, and I’ll pass it along to Olivia who has all the details and forms to get you squared away. Showtimes in December are as follows:
  • December 13, 2014, 7:30pm; Family Night (no orchestra) Price Map
  • December 14, 2014, 3:00pm; Family Night (no orchestra) Price Map
  • December 20, 2014, 7:30pm; with live Orchestra Price Map
  • December 21, 2014, 3:00pm; with live Orchestra Price Map


All shows are held at the American Bank Center, Selena Auditorium.


Kahn Academy is a great resource for parents and students.











I gave a talk with a middle school Bible Club called “Finding Heaven While Unleashing Hell” that shared my testimony and Olivia’s impact of praying for me every day I was deployed. Let's start the conversation about your upcoming event, or presentation/workshop needs. Speaker Interest Form.


October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. #DVAM Support your local battered women’s shelter, and make a commitment to promote healthy relationships, especially healthy marriage and family relationships. National Domestic Violence Hotline can help you find an organization near you. www.thehotline.org 1-800-799-7233 | 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

Friday, October 3, 2014

Invest in the Life of a Blended Family

I have wanted to share content that would be helpful for re-married couples, but since I do not have extensive knowledge or experience in this area I sought out some help. This is a special guest post from a friend and mentor of mine, Glen Solberg. Glen and his wife, Shawn, have served with FamilyLife Ministries for a number of years. Their work serves to bring hope, encouragement, and resources to champions of healthy, faith-filled marriages. You can learn more about them from their ministry blog TheSolbergFamily.org, or simply email them.


The Solberg Family
Shawn and I have known Bob and his wife, Natalie, for many years. On the outside, they look like any other family you might see in South Texas, but in many ways, they are distinctly different. You see, Bob and Natalie are a blended family. They were both previously married with kids and are now re-married. We all face some “common challenges” in marriage, but the challenges that blended families face are far greater - and these families are living all around us.


A couple of stats on blended families:
  1. 40% of married couples with children (i.e. families) in the U.S. are step-couples
  2. 42% of adults have a step-relationship, such as a step-parent, step- or half sibling, or a stepchild. That’s 95.5 million adults.


These numbers represent REAL people. People made in God’s image just like you and I. We share this information not so you can just “know” about the numbers of blended families, but so that you can offer encouragement to these families.


Here are some suggestions about ways you can encourage a blended family:
  • Relationship and Prayer: It’s a simple but powerful thing you can do. Spend some time with a blended family in your church or neighborhood. Take some time during your visit to ask them how you can pray for them, then pray for them before you leave. Continue to pray for them and connect with them consistently afterward.
  • Blended and Blessed Summit
    Online Help: Tell a blended family you know about three websites that can offer help to them. All three websites offer great online help and encouragement. Maybe even print off an article or share about a video or resource that you saw you think would be of interest.

    FamilyLife.com/Blended

    SmartStepFamilies.com

    YouTube.com/User/FamilyLifeBlended
  • Blended Family Ministry at Your Church: There are very few churches that have a true “marriage ministry” much less a ministry to blended families. But, you can change that at your own church. There is a great resource to help inform you church leadership about the need for this ministry AND resources to get that new ministry going. (You can contact Glen Solberg by email to find out more.) You don’t have to be a blended family to help. You just need a heart to help others and the initiative to ask.
  • National Step-family Day (Facebook Page): Each year on September 16th, we celebrate National Step-family Day. Take time on September 16 (mark your calendars for next year) to INVEST in the lives of a blended family near you. Buy them  a gift card, send a card of encouragement, etc. Be creative and supportive.


Comment below: If you are in a blended family, or were a child of a blended family, what are some of the challenges you faced? What were some of the blessings and joys from that blended family?


If you are a blended family and would like to know more, please connect with Glen by email.


RESOURCES

The Smart Stepdad by Ron L. Deal (Book-Amazon Affiliate Link)


































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Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Three Recommended Book Titles for Men on Marriage

There are three books that come to mind when I am asked to suggest books that focus on men in marriage. Unlike like many marriage books that are about “this is what she is like” and “this is what he is like” comparisons, these are titles are specific calls to men on how to have a healthier, happier marriage relationship. I took the liberty of sharing those titles with you below.

The Christian Husband by Bob Lepine. This is an analogy of what would it be like if God interviewed you for your first date with your spouse. Talk about putting things into perspective!






Tender Warrior by Stu Weber. God calls husbands and fathers to be warriors, a symbol of strength, but also to be tender in our closest relationships when and where it matters.






Stepping Up by Dennis Rainey (Founder of FamilyLife Ministries). This is aimed more towards fatherhood, but that is also an important part of marriage.







Here's a Plus One for you!

Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker. Conquer porn...not as an actor, but as someone who never looks at it again. The latest edition includes a workbook for those who wish to go deeper in the content or lead a men’s study group. Original (cheaper) edition.

For the sake of disclosure, the links are Amazon Affiliate links. So, if you buy one of these books, please use one of these links and I'll get like a nickel, or something, that I can apply towards the maintenance of this website and my podcast, Family Time Q&A.

Comment below: What are some great men and marriage titles you have read that helped you have a happier, healthier marriage?

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