Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Episode 28 - The One Where Olivia is Hyper




I really loved this movie as a kid!
You can buy a copy on Amazon.

This is the episode where she said it, "I'm finally as nerdy as you!" I'll take it. Olivia and I have had a lot of reason to be excited lately. Listen to this episode and see all the things going on that had Olivia practically giddy and hyper throughout the episode.

My question to Olivia: What memory of your dad do you cherish most from when you were growing up?

Our answers were quite different.

Our question to you: What would you say is your most cherished memory of your father?

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SHOW NOTES

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Tuesday, September 9, 2014

Episode 27 - How Do You Stay Connected With Your Teen?




The Cunningham Family
For the first time ever on Family Time Q&A, we have Brandon Cunningham join us during a father-son session. Brandon is married to Rene, and they are the parents of five children ranging from 13 years old up to 20 years old. He is currently serving as the Executive Pastor of Grace Community Church in Corpus Christi, Texas. 

I am honored to say that Brandon has been a good friend of mine for nearly a decade. I have had the honor to serve with him in ministry, be an accountability partner with him, and we even suggested he change his name to Brandon Duganham (but that didn’t fly.) 

You can follow Brandon's blog, Living the Dream, here.

Jacob’s question: What kinds of things do you like to do for fun with your kids?

Brandon’s question: Jacob, what would you rather do with your dad instead of what you normally do with him?

My question: What advice would you like to give to fathers of teens?

Our question to you: How do you keep the door open between you and your children?

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SHOW NOTES

Grace Community Church, Corpus Christi, Texas

Dad of Divas Blog, Christopher Lewis

BOGO Weekend to Remember Marriage Getaway, August 25 - Sept. 15, 2014
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Wednesday, September 3, 2014

#DadsDoMatter Challenge Accepted


#DadsDoMatter
 
MochaDad's Original Challenge Post 

 
My friend, Emiliano, called me out to do the #DadsDoMatter Challenge. 
 
Challenge accepted and DONE! 




Thanks to Frederick J. Goodall from MochaDad.com for not including some sort of icewater-filled bucket in this, and for raising awareness on something near and dear for me.
 
CLICK HERE FOR THE #DadsDoMatter CHALLENGE INSTRUCTIONS 


Didn't feel like clicking the link above? That's okay. Here are the three simple steps:

1. Take a picture of yourself holding a sign that says "#DadsDoMatter", then post on your social media with the same hashtag.

2. Challenge three (3) dads to post a #DadsDoMatter photo of their own.
3.  Support other dads by sharing their photos via social media.

I remember attending a marriage conference a couple of years ago. The guest speaker had all the men gathered in a room separate from their wives. He asked us to describe our fathers in one word. One by one, the 70 men in the room began to speak their one word. Loving. Tender. Giving. Caring. Teacher. Wise.

Then, one painful response opened a flood of more painful responses. Disappointment! Abuser! Absent! Loser!

It became very apparent there were men in the room who benefited from having a father who was present, loving, humble, and honest. Yet, there were men struggling in their lives including their marriages who had been painfully wounded by their fathers. #DadsDoMatter.

I described my own father with this one word, "Sacrificial." He is the kind of father who once gave me the last $20 bill in his pocket so I could sign up for high school football. The kind of guy who would swallow his own pride and do what needed to be done for those he loves.

So, take on this challenge. Give "MochaDad" credit. 

Specifically, I want these three men to do the challenge themselves:
  1. Brandon Cunningham
  2. Fatherpreneur Joseph Cortez
  3. Jeff Abramovitz from the DadPad.org
Who will you call out for the #DadsDoMatter Challenge? 







Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Episode 26 - First Week of Middle School, "Rose, Thorn, and Bud"




It is always a joy to have my daughter on the podcast with me. We discuss her first week of middle school in the format of "Rose, Thorn, and Bud". It's a dinner-time discussion format we use to talk about our day as a family. The "Rose" is where we share what went well, the highlights of the day. The "Thorn" is the biggest challenge we faced in that day, or a low point. The "Bud" is where we identify one way we will get the most out of the next day. Emma also asks me what is the hardest part of waiting for God's perfect timing. Thanks, Olivia, for planting that question. It was a good one.

Emma decided to tie-dye this weekend.
Emma’s question to me: What has been the hardest thing about waiting for God’s perfect timing?


My question to Emma: What would you say were your roses, thorns, and buds for your first week of middle school?


Our question to you: How would you describe your first gym locker room experience? How did you overcome the shame of changing in front of your peers for the first time?


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She also learned how to curl her hair using cloth strips. YouTube'd it.


SHOW NOTES

BOGO Weekend to Remember Marriage Getaway, August 25 - Sept. 15, 2014

Use the Group Name “Corpus Christi” when you register to attend a getaway. Corpus Christi will host Weekend to Remember on June 5-7, 2015!









Strength Revisited, a free eBook download based on my TEDxCorpusChristi Talk about how we define strength in manhood.

The Disciples of Christ detoured from Asia, Acts 16:7-8 (NIV).


Bay Area Fellowship is now Church Unlimited!

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Episode 25 - Back-to-School Blues and Marriage Tune-Ups

First Day, 2014
Olivia and I talk about how it felt to send BOTH of our kids to middle school, and share three ways that the FamilyLife Weekend to Remember marriage getaways have strengthened our marriage. They’re definitely not just for people who are struggling in marriage. We see them as preventive care for a healthy marriage.






Emma really squeezing my hand hard!
Liv’s question to me: What was my impression of dropping Emma and Jacob off on their first day of school? In other words, how were they different as we dropped them off.


My question to Liv: What are three ways you’ve seen our marriage strengthened by attending Weekend to Remember, and why should married couples attend one themselves?


Our question to you: We learned from our Pastor, Bil Cornelius, that we should annually take a vacation with the kids and a vacation without the kids. What types of preventive care do you infuse into your marriage to keep things healthy? What have you learned from others about healthy marriages that you’d like to share? Comment below.


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SHOW NOTES
Strength Revisited, a free eBook download based on my TEDxCorpusChristi Talk about how we define strength in manhood.


You and your spouse are invited to attend a
Weekend to Remember marriage getaway.

BOGO Weekend to Remember Marriage Getaway, August 25 - Sept. 15, 2014
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Monday, August 25, 2014

Midlife Crisis? Reinvent Yourself!

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I grew up knowing that I would one day join the U.S. Army and be a soldier. That was the life I was raised to embrace as an Army B.R.A.T. with a mother who said to me almost daily, “You have to go to school, get good grades, and become an officer.”

My favorite pastime wasn’t playing baseball like many of my friends would believe. It was pretending to be a soldier, playing war with my friends, playing war with G.I. Joe, watching war movies, etc.

As I creep up on midlife, I find myself taking inventory on where I am in the areas of my faith, family, fitness, finances, and my career. In the spirit of being open and real with you, I will say that I have been struggling with where I am financially and within my own career. Those two areas in particular have been frustrating. Why? It's because 11 years ago, I walked away from life in the Army. A year later, I received Jesus Christ as my Savior, but I never really embraced what that would mean for the rest of my life. 

So, here I am at 38 years old, and wondering where I go from here. Am I pursuing the path I was meant to go? What does that path look like? 
"Reinventing" and "renaming" are themes that have surrounded me in recent months. My church, Bay Area Fellowship, just changed its name to Church Unlimited and embraces its identity as a church that is unlimited in what it can do because of what God brings to the table. I learned of a businessman from Corpus Christi named Michael Johnson who decided to produce a movie called “The Identical” starring Ray Liotta and Ashley Judd. He just reinvented himself.

History is filled with people who reinvented themselves and found their success or purpose in the latter half of life.

  • Colonel Harland Sanders held many jobs and tried multiple businesses until he found his KFC success in his 60s!
  • Wells Fargo reinvented not only itself but how banking was done after the deregulation of banks in the 1980s. Read Good to Great by Jim Collins.
  • Apple shifted from just computers to handheld entertainment devices like iPod, iPad, and iPhone. 10 companies that completely reinvented themselves.
  • Stan Lee was 43 when he began drawing the superheroes that made him famous. In fact, he was born Stanley Martin Lieber, and served in the U.S. Army. Talk about reinventing oneself!
  • Julia Child didn’t learn to cook until she was 40 years old!

Our midlife can be a time of transition and transformation, or it can be a time of desperation and depression. I choose transformation.

Who am I?

Men's Conference in 2013
For me, it won’t be a Kaizan of my life. My transformation won’t be the buying of a sports car or throwing away my family for a younger woman.

Mostly, it will entail a reconciling of who I am with what I perceived I was supposed to be.

Knowing who you are is huge in knowing how you will reinvent yourself. I know that I am a man of God, a follower of Jesus Christ, a man dedicated to his wife and children. That won't change.

Where I really want to reinvent myself is in my career path, embracing where my gifts, talents, and passion really lies rather than trying to fulfill what other people have expected of me. It means embracing the fact that I am not a soldier any longer, that I hung that career path up when I chose my family over a military career.

What I needed to know was already in front of me. I enjoy writing, speaking, blogging, and teaching. Heck, I recently earned my Masters degree in Educational Technology. I am already doing what I enjoy doing! I guess I’m saying that my transition is in progress right now as I write this. I’m removing all my doubts. You haven’t heard about these doubts, but my closest friends and family have.

You’ll see more of me on this blog. You’ll hear more from my family in our podcast, Family Time Q&A, and you’ll see us promoting healthy marriages and healthy families in the years to come.

How will you reinvent yourself?

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Reinvent Yourself from Psychology Today

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Episode 24 - A Father-Son Chat, School Sports, Favorite TV Shows, Strength Revisited



I can’t believe that my son is already turning 13 years old this week!


This kid...

Jacob, age 4. Photo courtesy of Sylvia Vega (aka "Grammies!")

…is now this kid!

August 2014, age 13-ish. Photo courtesy of
Olivia Dugan (aka "Mommy!")



Yes, Jacob is officially taller than I am by at least an inch now.

Awards assembly, May 2014.

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SHOW NOTES
Question to Jacob: What sport do you look forward to most in the 2014-2015 school year?


Question to me: What is my favorite (all-time) TV show?


Our question to you: Jacob and I talk about Divergent, and I only named four of five factions. What is the one faction that I forgot to mention? Comment below, or email me at jerrysdugan@gmail.com.


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Corpus Christi Harbor BridgeWalk is held on Sunday of the first full weekend of the month. The route begins from Heritage Park with a safety announcement and group photo. Once the 3.4-mile route is complete, participants can get a ticket punched (five walks gets you a free t-shirt), enjoy demonstrations from local fitness groups, and re-nourish your body with water and fruit. 

Run or Dye is coming to Corpus Christi November 15, 2014. I really need to get running to build up my endurance, and ultimately keep up with Jacob. That guy can really run.

Weekend to Remember Marriage Getaway
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